5 signs you're secretly afraid of wealth
5 Signs you’re Secretly Afraid of Wealth
I thought it would be a great idea to talk about all the things I’ve learned that are actually subliminal ways of showing you that you’re afraid of wealth or have a negative association towards money.
1. You justify every purchase to everyone.
For example, let’s say that someone complimented my shoes. I would say that I got them on sale, even if I didn’t. A way to practice being vibrationally in tune with wealth is simply to say thank you. If they want to know where you got them, they’ll ask.
What you’re feeling in that moment when you think you have to justify your purchase is guilt or embarrassment, which doesn’t make any sense; they’re just complimenting what you’re wearing. You’ve somehow associated those feelings with that item.
So if you’ve bought something and you’ve earned that money, or you were given a beautiful gift, be happy. Be grateful for something you’ve earned or received. Better yet, choose to compliment others. That is a sign of a secure person who feels comfortable in the purchase they made and allows you to open this practice to others.
2.You mention that something is “outrageously expensive.”
What’s interesting is that the more wealthy you become, it doesn’t become directly proportional to how much money things are.
What happens is you realize that the value of things may or may not be evident to you.
Let’s take a look at art for instance. We may say something like, “It’s insane they paid a million dollars for that.” But the intrinsic value can be totally different than what you view it is. It’s completely subjective. Just having a lot of money doesn’t make you wealthy. Wealthy is also a mindset, just as broke can also be a mindset.
So when you say things are “outrageously expensive” or “that’s a rip off” you are assuming things that you may or may not know. The truth is that when we think something is too expensive, we don’t see the value or we simply don’t value those things. Your decision on what is valuable is completely up to you.
3. Describing rich people as bad people.
Stop describing rich people as greedy or bad people in general.
Stu McLaren, an online entrepreneur and multimillionaire, raises literally millions of dollars every year to build schools in Africa. It is based on his love for teaching online, which he wanted to give back in the real world. What it proved to me is that being wealthy isn’t about retaining money, it’s about giving to others. It’s about charity. It's so important to give back.
There are always going to be bad people, and they may have lots of money or they may have no money.
Let’s have groomers that own shops and employ people and set the standards. How awesome would that be?
4. Feeling uncomfortable around anything/anyone fancy.
If you went to a crappy motel, you might feel uncomfortable because it’s dirty or outdated, and you may just settle for it. If you went to a 5-star hotel, you may feel out of place or like it’s too fancy. You may feel like you’re a weird fixture, like you’re peeking into somebody else’s world. And that’s either because you feel like you don’t belong there, like you don’t deserve to be there. These are all weird guilt things that we all just deal with.
A lot of times you are dealing with limiting financial beliefs. “I have to work hard for my money” is a toxic and limiting belief because what if I just got money? What if I worked really hard for 10 years and I took all of that knowledge and then I made money really easily? When you have a blue-collar mindset and you think that money is coming too easily, often that mindset can become self-destructive.
If you want to feel wealthy, try on a really nice dress. Try on those thousand dollar pair of shoes and walk around the store to see how it feels. Go ahead and sit in a car that is way above your pay grade. Keep doing things like this until you start to feel like it’s no big deal. Because once it becomes no big deal, your vibration is going to be different.
You’re creating a false narrative that you aren’t good enough, you don’t feel like you belong, and that’s crazy because the universe wants to give to you. You deserve to make money - you work hard. Even if you don’t physically work hard, you have earned your place. You have done enough things to deserve to be here, so you get to enjoy the things you have. You have to feel comfortable in order to enjoy them.
5. You set a limit on your savings and/or earnings.
Once your savings account gets to a certain amount, you have an uncontrollable urge to spend it. Or once you start to earn a certain amount of money, you either let off the gas or you find yourself unable to earn even more.
At these conferences that I’ve gone to, I have heard so many people say that they’ve been making six figures, and then want to earn seven, and they don’t know why they can’t.
If I said to you, “You’re going to make one million dollars this year.” How does that make you feel in your heart? And not what do you think, but how do you feel?
I learned this from Tony Robbins. Every time you say this, go ahead and stop yourself, break the habit.
The format is: “I tell myself x. That’s bullshit, the truth is y.”
For example: People are making more money than I ever will. That’s bullshit, the truth is I can make as much money as I want as long as I’m willing to put the work in.
I tell myself that buying things that cost a lot is bad. That’s bullshit, the truth is that I earned that money and I deserve to enjoy the things that I have.
I tell myself that purchasing fine art photography is outrageously expensive. That’s bullshit, I am not in a place in my life where I can appreciate their skillset and their art.
I tell myself I don’t belong around these people, they’re not my people. That’s bullshit, they’re people just like me, they’re just in nicer clothes.
I tell myself if I have over $10,000 in my bank account, then I need to spend it. That’s bullshit, the truth is I need a savings/emergency fund that’s 3-6 months worth of expenses as an employee, and 6 months-1 year if I’m a business owner.
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